On night stand happens when a man and woman have sex on their first date. More often than not, in one night stand relationship, the woman involved is the loser. The story at the end of the post describes the anguish a lady in a one night stand scenario suffers. When you are tempted to get involved in a one night stand arrangement with a man, please ask yourself these two pertinent questions:
#What do I stand to gain? and
# What do I stand to loose?
To answer the first question, as a lady you stand to gain nothing. If it’s money you feel you have gained or will gain, just remember that money pales into insignificance when placed side by side with your health or wellbeing.
To answer the second question, what you stand to loose, I want you to understand that when you get involved with one night stand, you stand to loose many things chief of which are:
# Your health
When you engage in one night stand, you risk loosing your health. You don’t know the health status of your companion in one night stand. Some ask the companion “I hope you don’t have any disease?” to which he or she answers “no I don’t”. How laughable because no one will admit he or she is sick. In many instances, the partner may not even be aware that he or she is carrying an infection. Again, we have heared of people who are infected with HIV/AIDS, who go about infecting as many people as possible, on a revenge mission.
The woman involved in a one night stand stands to loose any integrity, reputation or respect she may have from her man. Men often have this mind set ‘ if she can give it to me on our first date, she can also give it to any other man on their first date. She is seen as a slut, a woman of easy virtue. So if she hopes that the man will marry her, she looses him right from the beginning of their relationship.
# The risk of a heartbreak
Immediately the man gets his way, he runs away, leaving the woman heartbroken and wondering what went wrong. If he is a gold digger, he runs away having found what he is looking for – sex. On the other hand, if he is a husband material, he runs away disappointed that he has met another slut whom he initially thought was a wife material.
I leave you with this missive from somebody who captured the dilemma of the woman in a one night stand scenario.
You found him in Facebook:
You check his Profile Picture.
He is handsome.
He inboxed you.
You reply, all excited.
You’ll want 2 hook up.
You set a date.
You dress up that Legging With No underwear.
You put on a make up- fresh breath and new weave.
He takes you for lunch at Serena Hotel.
He takes you for drinks at Java.
Two of you have a good time.
He rubs your hand,
Makes you laugh,
Gives you looks and smiles.
You stupidly fall in love.
It’s like you’ve known him forever.
He takes you to his apartment.
He makes you feel comfortable and lays you on his bed.
Kiss you passionately.
You love his aggression, strength, power and you give in.
It feels good.
You know it’s wrong, but it feels good.
You ask for protection, he says it’s too late.
You obey and don’t disturb.
He says he loves you and you don’t hesitate to say you love him too. He hits it nice and slow
After, he goes to the kitchen to get a glass of water.
He helps you drink it, ooohh man.
You feel special.
“He must be the one” you think to yourself:).
You get dressed.
He takes you to the taxi park.
He kisses you on the cheeks and says
“I had a great time,”
Gives you cash.
You smile and say.
“See you tomorrow babe.”
He stays silent.
Your taxi drives away,
In the taxi you can’t stop smiling.
You get home and inbox him that you got home safe.
He is online, but doesn’t reply.
It’s unlike him, so you inbox him again.
He doesn’t respond.
Minutes later you can’t find him on your friend list.
HE BLOCKED YOU.
Days, weeks, months passes by.
You start feeling sick, weak, loose weight, act strange with sores in your mouth.
You go to the clinic.
Nurse walks in and says”I’m sorry. You’re HIV Positive and Pregnant!”
You don’t understand.
Reality hits you.
You walk home.
You go to the bus stop.
You lay, hopeless, emotionless.
You see death coming nearer.
You look into the sky & mumble a prayer.
That’s the end of you.
Don’t be that girl!!!Live well. Stop Chasing Material Things
Credit: Princess Omobolanle Zion.
One night stand looks adventurous but it leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. Its like the proverbial wind that blows no man any good
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